What does it mean?
It is a sexual term, BD is binding and conditioning, DS dominates and obeys (bondage, discipline, domination, sadism, submission）， There are abusers and victims, and there is a master servant/hierarchical relationship, which is generally understood as sexual abuse activities, similar to the meaning of abusing.
Misconceptions about Abuse tools: It's scary, I'm a girl and I'm afraid of getting hurt
The general understanding of abusing among Hong Kong people mostly comes from AV or movies. In order to attract attention, these videos often use different styles of Abuse equipment to create exaggerated gameplay, such as large-scale whipping or waxing, completely restrained and suspended in mid air. Instilling the wrong culture and making Hong Kong people feel that sexual abuse activities are cruel, brutal, and bloody is the media and society's stigmatization of sexual abuse training. In addition, it is not widely used and the public is not familiar with it. These Abuse misunderstandings have caused resistance from most people, and have also made training activities a minority activity. Here are most people's misconceptions about sexual abuse training:
1 believes that Abuse toys are equivalent to violence and abuse
This is the most common misconception about him, as many people view sexual abuse as violent behavior and believe that physical wounds and bleeding are abuse. However, the premise of sexual abuse activities is that both parties voluntarily establish a foundation of trust, and are willing to take on the role of either the abuser or the abused. Therefore, from their standpoint, this is just a game of cooperation and cooperation, and the harm they have suffered is voluntarily accepted by them
Another important point, which is completely different from violent behavior, is that participants will clearly state their boundaries in advance, such as not accepting continuous whipping, and setting safety words in advance. These actions are very important to prevent both sides from being too invested in the training process and truly touching each other's bottom line. It can be seen that Abuse activities are pre communicated and planned arrangements by both parties, coupled with clear boundaries and safety words, so Abuse sexual abuse is essentially safe
In fact, Abuse products are divided into many types. In addition to causing pain, there are also bundling, blocking limbs, vision, speech, and so on. Using Abuse toys may not necessarily result in injury, so you can rest assured that they do not have any destructive power. They are only used for decoration and can be easily broken free with just a little effort; Or some whip Abuse props also have visual effects, and there is no damage when whipped. If you are afraid of pain, you can choose these decorative items
2 People who play Abuse must be mentally deranged
This is also a common misconception, as many people believe that those who participate in BD Abuse have psychological trauma and abnormal sexual needs. In fact, people who participate in training activities come from various industries, and their mental health is generally healthy. They are only interested in power exchange, binding and restraint, and being dominated and controlled, so they try to play Abuse
For them, playing Abuse is like a way to express their emotions and troubles. They may face the pressure of life, the identity given to them by society, and in their daily lives, they need to suppress themselves due to their identity and environment. They cannot satisfy their true inner needs. Therefore, they will choose to play Abuse, seeking a way to satisfy their interests and release their stress. It can be seen that people who play Abuse are not psychologically abnormal, they just have relatively alternative interests
